"Why I Charge £350 an Hour to Help Mums’ Sons Sleep Better: My Journey with 500 Clients"

SEX surrogate Saurora Grace, 31, from Manchester, helps disabled clients of all genders and abilities lose their virginity.

Here she reveals why she thinks everyone deserves a spicy sex life and the right to experience their deepest bedroom fantasies . . .

Saurora Grace has sex with disabled people and virgins to help them live a fuller life Credit: Olivia West Saurora admits her unconventional job can put off potential boyfriends Credit: Supplied

AS I pull on my heels before slipping out of a young man’s house, his mum watches from the window and gives me a grateful smile.

Minutes earlier, I’d done something in her son’s bedroom that most parents would rather not know about.

I’d taken his . And I’d been employed to do it.

For the last three years, I’ve been working as a , charging £350 an hour to help clients overcome their fears around intimacy or experience intercourse in a world that denies them pleasure.

And it is becoming .

It might sound extreme but I’ve helped more than 500 people so far — women as well as men — aged from 21 up to 80.

Many were born with a disability and were still virgins, or they had been left with life-transforming injuries, such as paralysis, after an accident and don’t have a partner to have sex with.

Others are able-bodied but could be in a sexless relationship or be a real-life 40-year-old virgin.

Just over 90 per cent of disabled people are sexually active, but many are still often treated by society as .

My work is about putting them at ease, helping them to overcome shame and teaching them about , either at a workshop in my house or on a home visit.

I see up to five clients a week for sessions of about three hours.

I’d like to help more but the job is very physical and can be draining.

It might sound strange but I got into this line of work after my beloved mum lost her long battle with alcoholism in 2022.

Her heartbreaking death pushed me to want to help people.

Losing my mum fundamentally reshaped the way I understood life, the body and human connection.

It made me realise how often people deny themselves intimacy, pleasure and honesty until it’s too late.

And it pushed me towards work that helps others reconnect with those things.

I had already been secretly working on for three years, selling pictures and videos alongside working as a hairdresser.

I’d had to hide my sexual side from my mum growing up.

She was a careers adviser in a school and quite prudish.

A few times she had found sex toys hidden in my room and wasn’t happy.

When I first started getting clients through sex work websites, I was incredibly nervous — stepping into something so intimate came with a lot of uncertainty.

A room in Saurora’s house with toys on shelves for clients to use Credit: Supplied

But after my first few sessions, I felt a mix of relief and pride, and quickly realised I could help people in a meaningful way.

I’ll admit my unconventional job has put off men in the past and it also led to the breakdown of a previous relationship.

Now I wouldn’t be with anyone who does not support me.

Luckily my current partner, Jonny, 46, a music venue operator, not only understands what I do, but sometimes joins me on jobs where a couple is needed.

We met on dating app in 2024 and I was honest from the get-go about my career.

Jonny was impressed with the service I was providing and immediately offered to help.

Being a sex surrogate isn’t sordid or seedy.

But I have faced trolling and ­judgment online, with people making assumptions about my work and trying to shame me.

I’ve been called “low value”, told I must have no self respect, or that I’m taking advantage of people.

I was informed by my ex-partner that I wouldn’t find anyone who loves me because of my work.

Even my partner’s mum has struggled to accept what I do.

She has made assumptions about my clients, implying that they must be dangerous or even criminals, rather than understanding they’re just normal, everyday people.

But those experiences have helped me build resilience and confidence in my choices.

I’m proud of the work I do. Everyone deserves a spicy sex life.

I help people of all genders and abilities explore their sexuality in a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space, allowing them to access their fantasies and desires despite their physical or neurological disabilities, social anxiety or past traumas.

Saurora says: ‘I’ve helped more than 500 people so far — women as well as men — aged from 21 up to 80’ Credit: Olivia West

There’s also more to being a than you may realise.

I work with very vulnerable people — often physically and mentally — so I have to be trained in first aid.

I’m also a fully-trained and certified and masseuse.

Most of my clients find me online and it’s often their parents who make the first contact.

If their child is an adult with a disability, they want them to experience sex like anyone else their age.

Often, they’ll invite me over to their house, go out for the afternoon and leave us to it.

One of my regulars, in his 30s, has severe after he was shaken as a baby.

His adoptive mum reached out to me because he was struggling to find a girlfriend, as women could not see past his physical issues.

When I arrived at their house, she gave me a massive hug and said: “I just want you to know that you’re truly amazing.”

It was a heartwarming moment and made me realise how important my work is.

We have a great time together and have lots of shared interests, like the same taste in music. He’s also hilarious.

I often wonder what his life would have been like if he hadn’t experienced such cruelty as a child.

I’m pleased to help him enjoy the vibrant sex life he deserves.

Another client is in his 40s and was paralysed from the neck down in a snowboarding accident.

He has a lack of sensation in his intimate areas but I’ve found ways to allow him to again.

I also have a female client who is in a wheelchair due to paralysis and have used my expertise to help her enjoy sexual sensations once more.

I take a gradual approach with clients, beginning with a massage during the first session.

We may progress to oral sex at the next before trying intercourse on the third one, depending on how comfortable they feel.

Not everyone wants to wait, though.

One recent client in his early 20s, who was in a wheelchair due to a genetic condition, was desperate to lose his virginity after his parents went out and left us to it.

Afterwards, I asked him how it was. He said: “It wasn’t what I imagined, but I finally experienced sex for the first time.”

Not all my clients are disabled. I work with older virgins as well as individuals or couples who have not had sex with each other for years.

Sometimes they have fantasies they have been scared to try.

Saurora is also a fully-trained and certified tantric sexologist and masseuse Credit: Olivia West

I’ve seen it all. From hypnosis fetishes to requests involving hazmat suits or even head shaving, nothing really surprises me any more.

The backstories of the people I work with can really affect me.

There is often tragedy and trauma in their lives. I speak to a therapist once a week to make sure I have an outlet to discuss what I’ve seen and heard.

Yes, my work is far from conventional but I’m not going to hide what I do or feel shame.

More and more, research is showing how vital , who have the same desires as the rest of us.

The idea that disabled adults are asexual or don’t need sex is a widespread myth.

I’m passionate about changing this and educating society.

Of course, there will always be some judgmental people when it comes to sex work.

But if they saw the difference it made to my clients, I think they would change their minds.

I help them have the time of their life, and I enjoy doing it.

It’s amazing to see the smile on their face as we say our goodbyes.

• For more information, visit sauroragrace.com or spicysaurora.com.