"I Lost My Virginity at 27: Surprising Confessions from the 'Odd One Out' — and Why I'm Proud!"

Table of Contents

• Introduction
• Personal Experience
• Societal Pressure
• Acceptance
• Sex in Numbers
• Conclusion

One in five individuals in the UK confess to having had sexual intercourse by the age of 16, which makes my experience quite unique and far from average.

I was 27 when I first had sex and lost my virginity. Coincidentally, it was the same year Virgin Island first appeared on our screens.

Mollie is “not ashamed about losing my virginity at 27”Credit: Instagram/molliemunroquirk Mollie is now in a relationship and enjoys a healthy sex lifeCredit: Supplied

The truth is, I experienced it in a natural way, at a time that felt right for me, completely disregarding societal expectations about when the "normal" time to lose one's virginity is.

Interestingly, I’m not alone in this, as Big Brother housemate Richard surprised viewers recently with his confession. Days later, fellow BB star George, 23, also revealed his virginity.

Instantly, viewers judged both men for being virgins.

But why were these admissions so shocking and met with negativity? Especially considering there have been shows discussing this topic on television this year?

Why, as a society, are we so curious about when individuals lose their virginity, and more importantly, why they haven't?

As I shared, I only had sex for the first time at 27, which is considered late by many standards.

In fact, 17 is the average age for individuals in the UK to lose their virginity, according to 2023 YouGov research.

When people discover that I was a decade behind the average, they often judge me and label me as “weird” or “strange.”

And speaking from experience, it’s easy to feel “weird” or “strange” in such situations.

Everyone's stories are completely unique – there’s no single narrative that applies to everyone.

So, why was I still a virgin at 27? Well, my lack of sociability and a small circle of friends may have played a significant role in my case.

I was not a social butterfly during my school years, which likely contributed to my delayed experiences.

I didn’t attend house parties as a teenager, I never went clubbing, and my group of friends was quite limited.

When I went to university, I lived at home instead of moving into dorms, which probably hindered my sexual development even further.

Additionally, my family moved frequently during my childhood, so I never really acted my age, had a boyfriend, or engaged in the activities most people my age were experiencing.

Throughout my late teens and early twenties, I often felt like the odd one out, especially since other girls my age were in relationships or even starting families.

However, after turning 23, I began to accept my virginity.

Perhaps the first lockdown influenced this acceptance – since meeting someone to sleep with was not an option – but I believe my acceptance stemmed from something deeper.

Mollie stated that being a virgin or someone's virginity should not define their identityCredit: Instagram/molliemunroquirk Richard surprised Big Brother fans when he revealed he is still a virgin at 60 years oldCredit: Shutterstock Editorial

I accepted my virginity as it felt like an integral part of my identity.

I had been single, and I felt at peace with it, despite yearning for love.

Instead of allowing my virginity to weigh me down, I chose to focus on other aspects of my life. It may sound odd, but there was no reason to let it become a burden, especially since everything else in my life was going well.

I shifted my focus to my career, dedicating my energy to building a name for myself and creating a fulfilling life for my wonderful mother and me.

Another reason for not having had a boyfriend or sexual partner could be my determination to succeed in my career, which left me little time to consider relationships.