I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 41 – people thought it was a bad idea, but six years on we’ve got a kid

Published on July 20, 2025 at 05:23 PM

LOVE often blooms in unexpected ways, sometimes defying what society considers the norm.

For one couple, Iyah and Rafah, their to finding happiness on their own terms, despite early doubts from others.

Couple in kitchen, six years after age-gap relationship began.
Iyah and Rafah are celebrating being together for six years

Iyah recently shared an update with her 840.4K followers, celebrating six years of and the joy of building a family, a journey many initially questioned.

Sharing a happy video of them dancing together, they wrote: “Us six years later because my husband didn’t give up pursuing me even when everyone said ‘you’re 41.

“Dating a 19-year-old is a bad idea.”;

Their relationship first captured attention due to their significant age difference.

When they met, Iyah was just 19 years old, while Rafah was 41.

On their TikTok page, @rafal_and_iyah, Iyah had previously described meeting Rafah as “a dream come true.”;

She’s also openly spoken about the deeper connection that drew them together, moving past the age gap.

As she explained, at 19, she already knew she wanted to get married and become a young mum.

Rafah, then 41, had “wanted a family for so long,”; making their aspirations perfectly aligned.

Iyah revealed that both of them initially worried about the age difference and how their families might react.

However, they ultimately decided that external opinions didn’t matter, choosing instead to follow their hearts and start a family together.

Now, six years into their marriage with children, they’re clearly celebrating having trusted their own path despite the initial “bad idea”; warnings.

Their latest video gained 604k views and 319 comments after three days of being shared and many people’s opinions have been divided.

One person wrote: “She was 41 and he was 19. and he was pursuing her, that’s how I understood it.

Couple in kitchen, six years after defying age gap criticism.
They first met when Iyah was 19 and Rafah was 41

“Now they’re supposedly 47 and 25, if you can believe the story.”;

While a second added: “You two look beautiful together. And I’m glad he never stopped fighting for you too!”;

And a third commented: “I’m 60 and my husband is 82. We’ve been together since 1989. Don’t judge.

“My parents reached 55 yrs before my dad’s passing, he reached 67 before his mother experienced a that forced her into a care home.

“Nothing can touch us. We’re strong.”;

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