"11 Years of Swinging: The Myths, Rules, and Realities Behind the Lifestyle"

A COUPLE who have been swinging since 2014 have opened up about what really goes on behind closed doors – and it’s not all fun and games.

High school sweethearts Bella and Jase got together back in 2007, but didn’t start until seven years later.

The couple shared what it’s really being swingersCredit: instagram/4oulay.official The pair have been enjoying their spicy extra curricular activities for over a decadeCredit: instagram/4oulay.official

Now after over a decade experimenting with consensual non-monogamy, the duo have revealed what it takes to make it work.

So, what is swinging?

It involves exchanging, or swapping sexual partners either alone or as a couple.

And while the thought of letting your partner have sexual encounters with someone else, let alone enjoying the prospect might not be for everyone, Bella and Jase are strong advocates of it.

In fact, the pair love the frisky lifestyle so much they even started a podcast where they discuss all things swinging and their own experiences.

But despite the wild and fun times the couple have had thanks to swinging, the pair are the first to admit not everyone can handle it.

Just last month Bella took to social media to explain why some people just can’t hack it.

“Swinging isn’t always easy,” she said in the viral clip, “There’s a lot of vulnerability, honesty, and communication skills required to have a successful and healthy open relationship.

“It’s not for everyone, and it’s not better or worse than the traditional relationship structures we’re used to seeing. It’s just different, and that’s okay!”

After many years of swinging with Jase, Bella said they both know exactly how to enjoy their spicy time without ruining the core of their relationship.

It all comes down to being honest, vulnerable, and respecting other people’s boundaries, she said.

It might sound simple, but it can be harder to do in practice, especially as a couple.

As far as Bella is concerned if you can’t have a good old fashioned open conversation with your partner, you’re probably not cut out for swinging.

“Most people have trouble with that in just normal day to day life and normal and so if you’re having issues with that, swinging is not for you,” she said.

After over a decade enjoying their extra-curricular activities, the couple even founded their own swinging website, but they warned others of the rules they stick to to make it work.

For Bella and Jase, they are strict on a few things, including using protection, and always being in the same room.

The couple will also only climax with each other, won’t kiss anyone else above the neck, and communication has to be in group chats – no separate conversations.

And to curb any jealousy, Jase revealed they also take the “equal play” rule seriously.

This basically means everyone in the group gets the same amount of attention, so no one is left on the side-lines.