SENDING your child to a nursery can be scary.
But now one mum has revealed she’s considering quitting her job even before starting the new position after an alleged incident at her son’s .
Following the scary incident, Maria said that “the women couldn’t apologise enough”Credit: TIKTOK/@mariavanezi
While many sided with the parent, there were also plenty of those who felt nurseries were understaffed and the current ratios were offCredit: TIKTOK/@mariavanezi
Mum-of-two Maria Vanezi (@ mariavanezi ) took to TikTok to fume after her 14-month-old tot allegedly “fell of a chair climbing it and banged his head”.
According to the furious parent, her little boy was “at his settling session at nursery” when she received a call from the staff.
During this call, Maria was informed about the “accident” – and after hearing this, she was ready to take drastic measures.
The mum said in her video: “Baby boy is at his setting session at nursery… had a call ‘he’s had an accident’.
“Debating whether to quit my job before I start or go in and beat them up…” she jokingly said.
Outraged Maria, who added she had “”, continued in the comments: “He has no idea how to climb up or down off a chair so at this point, who is responsible?
“The adults I pay to look after and care for him or my 14 month old son for “exploring”.
“I’ve been understanding this time, but don’t get it twisted, if it keeps happening then in my eyes, they are not doing they’re job correctly,” she slammed the nursery staff.
Following the scary incident, Maria said that “the women couldn’t apologise enough”.
“She was really honest and I get things can happen, I will only ever be concerned if it become too regular to the point I’m concerned for his actual safety.
“Until then, I do trust them and I think this will be good for him.”
The mum added: “I know good things about them and they looked after my daughter brilliantly so I’m hoping things haven’t changed.”
Posted four days ago, the clip has racked up close to 100k views – and a mixed bag of reactions in the comments.
While many sided with the parent, there were also plenty of those who felt nurseries were understaffed and the current ratios were off.
One viewer said: “If you want a 1:1 ratio then please keep him at home so he can have that.
“Staff in nurseries are stretched as it is, we try our best but unfortunately with 20/30 children we can’t have eyes on every one every second of the day. It’s impossible.”
Another agreed, writing: “Okay but you do understand that your child is not the only one they have to look after, right? Toddlers are also fast.
“Do you think you could keep your eyes on a group of toddlers all the time?”
“I have to fill in an accident form every day my twins are at nursery its draining! They are just as bad at home as well though so I can’t blame anyone haha,” a fellow mum chimed in.”
“Tbh this would probably be a red flag for me, usually on a settling session the staff would be extra vigilant because they don’t yet know the child,” a fourth shared their take on the unfortunate situation.
Different parenting techniques
Here are some widely recognised methods:
Authoritative Parenting
This technique will often foster independence, self-discipline, and high self-esteem in children.
It is often considered the most effective, this technique is where parents set clear expectations – enforcing rules – whilst also showing warmth and support.
Authoritarian Parenting
This is opposite to authoritative parenting, as it is where the parent sets high demands but is low on responsiveness.
It involves ensuring the child is obedient and often employ punitive measures. While this can lead to disciplined behaviour, it may also result in lower self-esteem and social skills in children.
Permissive Parenting
Permissive parents tend to be indulgent and lenient, often taking on a role more akin to a friend than an authority figure. They are highly responsive but lack demandingness, granting children a lot of freedom. This method can nurture creativity and a free-spirited nature but may also result in poor self-regulation and difficulties with authority.
Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved or neglectful parenting is marked by low responsiveness and low demands. Parents in this category offer minimal guidance, nurturing, or attention. This often leaves children feeling neglected, which can have significant negative effects on their emotional and social development.
Helicopter Parenting
Helicopter parents are extremely involved and overprotective, frequently micromanaging their children’s lives. Although their goal is to protect and support, this approach can hinder a child’s ability to develop independence and problem-solving skills.
Free-Range Parenting
Free-range parenting encourages children to explore and learn from their surroundings with minimal parental interference. This method promotes independence and resilience but requires a safe and supportive environment to be successful.
Attachment Parenting
According to Marriage.com , Attachment parenting focuses on physical closeness and emotional bonding, often through practices such as co-sleeping and baby-wearing. This approach aims to create secure attachments and emotional well-being, but demands significant time and emotional commitment from parents.
Each of these parenting techniques has its own set of strengths and weaknesses. The key is to find a balanced approach that aligns with the family’s values and meets the child’s needs for a healthy, happy upbringing.
Eze Chidiebere Paul
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