GETTING engaged is often one of the happiest moments in your life – but one woman has revealed how she was left disappointed by her ring.
She revealed she had found the sparkler on for £74, despite him saying he had a budget for £13,000.
A woman admitted that she was upset with her engagement ring – after discovering that her partner lied about the costCredit: Reddit/EngagementRings
She found out that it was moissanite, despite him saying he had a £14,000 budgetCredit: Reddit/EngagementRings
Despite the fiancé making it seem like it was “custom ordered”, the woman found the exact link for the three-stone ring online.
Taking to Reddit , she said: “He said his budget was 18K (£14,000), that he had told his jeweller he could do up to 2.18 cts on white gold.
“The ring itself says S925 and it clearly looks like a moissanite stone or CZ.
“It’s still a very beautiful ring but I can’t help but think that he thinks I’m not worth it or that maybe he’s testing me somehow.
“I know he can definitely afford it so now I wonder why he’s going the cheaper route, hoping that I won’t notice.”
In the proposal moment, the woman said she “acted very lovingly” as she considers herself “to be a very humble person”.
She added: “I had told him that it didn’t matter if he got me a ring from a gumball machine but I don’t know how to feel about this, just the fact that he’s lying is what hurts.
“I love him and I don’t know how to bring this up.
“It just gives me a bad taste in my mouth, a bad feeling.”
The woman said she knows the ring was delivered by Amazon, and that she was going to confront her husband-to-be about the “lying.”
People agreed that she should, with one saying: “If he is lying then I’d be worried about his overall honestly.”
Another added: “You can point out the S925 hallmark and say you’re worried he got scammed bc if he didn’t get the white gold he paid for then he should be confronting the jeweller/store right?”
And a third commented: “I would go get an appraisal for insurance and wait for the jeweler to say it’s moissanite and then confront him.
“I agree with the other person who says it is the lying that is the issue, not the ring.”
She found the ring on Amazon for £74Credit: Amazon
How much should an engagement ring cost?
Buying an engagement ring is a huge moment in anyone’s life, but there’s also a lot to take into consideration, including metals, gems, sizes, and styles.
Some may know the exact engagement ring their partner would like, while others may feel a lot of pressure to choose the perfect ring.
London’s Hatton Garden is a popular location for many, where you can shop engagement rings and bespoke designs, while Tiffany & Co, Cartier, and De Beers are often popular inspirations for some to base their engagement ring design around.
H Samuel , Goldsmiths , Ernest Jones , and Beaverbrooks are also popular shopping destinations to secure the engagement ring, while Monica Vinader, Very and Pandora also have stunning rings that are low cost to pop the question.
While finding the engagement ring is a big part of the proposal, it is not everything.
When it comes to engagement rings, and any type of jewellery for that matter, setting a budget is key as there is no limit to how much it could cost.
Having said that setting your budget and sticking to it is paramount.
Engagement rings can fetch as low as £65 for a sterling silver gem design, up to tens of thousands of pounds.
If you wish to bespoke your engagement ring you can do so, but you may have to pay a premium to do so.
There is a myth that a partner should spend two to three months’ salary on the engagement ring for their partner.
However, nowadays it’s not followed as strictly, and shoppers tend to choose their budget, especially in the crisis.
We would recommend a range of £1,000 to £3,000 is a significant sum to buy a stunning engagement ring with very good clarity and colour.
How to ace a proposal
THINKING of proposing? Follow this checklist by Fabulous' Deputy Editor Josie Griffiths to ensure a yes…
- Time it right – the average Brit waits between 18 months and two years to get engaged. But you might feel ready after six months, or decide to wait five plus years to pop the question. Only you truly know when the time’s right, and this isn’t a decision you want to rush. Falling in love might feel amazing but of course most relationships DON’T end in marriage – and this is for good reason…
- Pay attention – hopefully you haven’t reached the point yet of your frustrated partner leaving their laptop open with ‘hints’ for rings they like. Ideally you’ll want the ring to be a secret, but also something they’d happily wear – and for the rest of their life, so just a TEENY bit of pressure here. You need to be paying attention to any comments your partner makes about other people’s rings, what they do and don’t like, and what’s most important to them – size, clarity, specific details. If you’re really unsure, or if your partner hates surprises, it’s best to propose with a dummy and then buy the real thing together.
- Family matters – tradition dictates that you ask the dad’s permission for his daughter’s hand in marriage, but it’s not so straightforward nowadays. Maybe your partner’s closer to their step-dad, or wants her mum to walk her down the aisle, in which case you’d be better off chatting to them. Maybe they’d find it weird if you went to their parents first, in which case you could ditch the whole thing. Or perhaps they’re closer to their friends and the best idea would be letting your partner’s best mate pick the ring. These things do matter and could come back to bite you if handled in the wrong way.
- Plan the setting – does your partner dread being centre of attention, or are they someone who’d be gutted if you proposed at home, berating you forever for a lack of ‘effort’? Plan the place for your perfect proposal – how busy it’ll be, whether you’ll be able to get a good pic there, and other logistics around it. A proposal at the top of a mountain might sound good in theory but your girlfriend might not actually appreciate it when there’s sweat dripping down her forehead and she’s not wearing the cute dress she’d imagined for the pictures. Personally, I can’t think of anything worse than a public proposal where everyone’s waiting to hear your answer – in a group of friends, the middle of a restaurant or with an announcement at an event. So bear all of this in mind and remember, it’s meant to be about what THEY want, not you.
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