VOGUE Williams has revealed she threatened to leave husband Spencer Matthews at the height of his binge drinking.
It comes after former star Spencer, 37, previously , when he used to hit the bottle.
Vogue Williams has opened up about giving husband Spencer Matthews and ultimatum over his binge drinking Credit: Whats My Age Again Podcast / Youtube
Vogue married Spencer in 2018 but his drinking got so bad she started to rethink their relationship Credit: PA
Spencer is now sober after quitting drinking, which saw him boozing to excess Credit: @spencermatthews/ instagram
Now , 40, has given her take on how bad the situation had got to.
The couple wed in 2018 and share children Theodore, seven, Gigi, five, Otto, four,.
But Vogue has revealed how when she was expecting with her first child, she thought about leaving , because of how much he was drinking.
“I remember when I was pregnant with Theodore and things were getting out of hand a little bit with Spenny and his drinking,” the I star told ‘s podcast .
“I just turned around to him and I said, ‘This isn’t really the life for me. And if you want to keep doing this, that’s totally cool.
“‘But I’m just not going to be around for it.’
“So although it was kind of like an ultimatum, I wasn’t saying, ‘You have to stop.’ I was just saying, ‘I don’t want this.’
“And then I think he took a step back and was like, ‘OK, it kind of is.’”
It comes after Spencer also talked about how he sought help .
Opening up during a chat last year with fellow reformed alcoholic , the star said: “I suspect this will come as a shock, because I haven’t really spoken about this level of detail.
Spencer revealed how he sought help to save his marriage Credit: Social Media Collect
“I reached out to somebody that I don’t really know – but a famous person.
“My agent was managing a very famous person who was sober, and she got me his number and I called him and he said ‘you need to get yourself to a men’s meeting today’.
“I was just like ‘What’s the rush? I’ve taken this step to say I’m going to sort myself out, I don’t have time to go today’.
“And he said ‘You’re making excuses, if you’ve got kids get yourself a babysitter, if you’ve got a meeting cancel the meeting – get to this meeting, you absolutely must attend this meeting if you’re serious about changing your life’.”
In a bid to turn his life around, Spencer said: “I went to the meeting and it was the Kilburn mens’ meeting. I felt like I didn’t really belong there.
“Different people’s problems are all relative, but I certainly felt like I was maybe fresher in the scale of what was going wrong. There were people there who were high on drugs at the time and very suicidal.
“It was very eye-opening for me – which I suppose was the point.
“I sat down next to this guy and he looked at me and he goes ‘you look alright’ and I thought ‘Ok, thanks’, and I actually felt out of place because I was deeply ashamed of my drinking and behaviour but I was a little bit like ‘I’m sure I can find a maybe more appropriate meeting’.
How to cut back on drinking
If you're concerned about your drinking, a good first step is to see a GP
They’ll be able to give advice and support on how to manage your drinking habits and cut back safely.
This might involve counselling, medicines or detox services.
Being dependent on alcohol means you feel you’re not able to function without it, and means stopping drinking can cause physical withdrawal symptoms like shaking, sweating or nausea.
If you have these symptoms when you don’t drink, it could be dangerous to stop drinking too quickly without proper support.
There are many charities and support groups you can join or speak to, as well as helplines:
- Drinkline national alcohol helpline on 0300 123 1110
- Alcohol Change UK
- Alcoholics Anonymous helpline on 0800 9177 650
- Al-Anon Family Groups helpline on 0800 0086 811
Tips to quit
When you’re ready to stop, the following tips and techniques can make it that little bit easier.
- Tell family and friends that you’re aiming to stop drinking alcohol and explain why – reminding yourself and the people close to you why you want to stop drinking can help keep you on track, and may even encourage someone else to give up or cut down with you.
- Identify triggers and avoid situations where you may be tempted to drink, at least in the early stages, from after-work pub quizzes to boozy dinners.
- Keep busy in the times you’d usually drink by trying something new – get active or meet a friend at the cinema.
- Reward yourself as you make progress and don’t be too hard on yourself if you slip up every once in a while – it can be helpful to give yourself short-term goals.
- Notice how your body feels without booze – you might find that you have more energy, are sleeping better or have lost weight.
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“And the guy at the end was like ‘Listen, you probably can find a more appropriate meeting, but you’re not a million miles from this, and if you are concerned about what you’re seeing here you should be because you’re a year away from this.”
The reality star also told how during his earlier life as a City trader he’d openly knock back ten pints a night.
But since that time he had progressed to a point where he’d secretly swig booze from a bottle at home and lie to his loved ones.
Spencer added: “When my drinking started to creep into the earlier hours of the day I would just trot down the stairs, neck a double shot of whatever, put it back, come back upstairs like nothing’s happened.
“I would use vodka because there’s no smell.
The former Made In Chelsea star was a wild party boy Credit: GC Images – Getty
“If anybody did say ‘Have you had a drink today?’ you’d just lie.
“Ordinarily I’d just brush it off and say ‘No, why would you think that?’
“For me it was the shame. We also have a cupboard upstairs, I’d open the door and have a quick shot and then shut the door and even if there was somebody else in the house they’d be like ‘What were you doing there?’ – ‘Oh nothing, I’m just looking for something’.”
Spencer said the secretive drinking made it difficult for him when he had to dispose of bottles he’d finished.
He said: “I used to find it quite difficult when you would work through the whole bottle – over the course of several days – and then all of a sudden the bottle’s empty, so it’s like ‘What do you do with the bottle?’
“Do you throw the bottle out or do you keep the bottle – people might know that the bottle was there.”
Spencer has not relapsed since 2018 and has turned his life around and become a super-fit athlete.
Spencer has now turned his life around Credit: Getty
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