Misse Beqiri Opens Up About Heartbreak Over Jake Hall – But One Response Left Me Outraged and Needs to Be Addressed!

TELLING her eight-year-old daughter River that her daddy, Jake Hall, had died and wasn’t coming back was one of the most heartbreaking moments of Misse Beqiri’s life.

“The shock was awful. I was crying on the phone to my mom, who was saying: ‘This can’t be true,” the Swedish-Albanian model told me.

Jake Hall and Misse Beqiri attend Wimbledon in 2021. They dated on and off for five years Credit: Getty Missé Beqiri said all she could think about was her daughter when she heard of Jake’s passing Credit: Instagram

“The first person I thought about was River. How can I tell her that her dad is gone? I kept thinking: ‘I don’t know if I am able to do this.’

“It was the worst thing I’ve ever had to do,” she says as tears fill her eyes.

“I know I keep saying this, but it didn’t feel like it was real for me to have to tell my child that her dad had passed.”

“That was the worst phone call I’ve ever had in my life,”

But what surprised me was that her pain wasn’t treated with kindness but with more contempt.

My social media was flooded with people criticising Misse for her behaviour since Jake, who she met in 2016, died, including “wearing make-up on camera” and “profiting from his death” [Fabulous doesn’t pay for cover interviews and Misse turned down huge money offers, instead wanting to speak to to share her experiences about grief to help others].

Perhaps most shockingly, “not speaking badly about him when she had previously while he was alive on her reality show”.

They had clearly never heard the adage of not speaking ill of the dead.

Misse has never shied away from the fact that her and Jake’s five-year relationship was complex and could even be toxic at times.

But she wanted to pay tribute to a man who has been an excellent father to her daughter and always showed River nothing but love.

It’s worth remembering Misse is someone who has had her fair share of pain, even before former TOWIE star Jake’s sudden death . She knows how to navigate grief more than most.

The 39-year-old, who stars in Bravo’s Ladies of London, lost her beloved big brother, Flamur “Alex” Beqiri, who was in Battersea, London, on Christmas Eve 2019.

The 36-year-old’s murder was part of a gangland feud, and the hitman is serving life in prison.

“Losing my brother, I had to learn how to deal with grief,” she says.

“It was six years ago, but it still feels like a month ago. It was sudden, too.

“When I lost him, I thought: ‘I will never feel pain like this again,’ then losing Jake, it was like: ‘How is this happening to me again?’”

It wasn’t lost on me that a lot of this criticism came on a social media clip where Misse was urging people NOT to judge people on how they grieve because everyone handles it differently.

The star, who also has an 11-year-old son, Julian, with her Danish footballer , explains, “Sometimes it feels like people are going ‘oh my god. Is she not grieving? How is she already back to work?’

Kelly Allen spoke to Misse Beqiri for Fabulous magazine Credit: Mark Hayman – Fabulous Misse has River with Jake and 11-year-old son, Julian, with her Danish footballer ex-husband Anders Lindegaard Credit: Instagram/Missebeqiri River and Misse before Jake’s death

“What’s right? I have to work, I want River to see Mommy working.

“It helps me. Honestly, when I went to the shoot for the first job I had [after Jake’s death], I was like: ‘OK, I feel proud.’ I’m doing this for her.

“There’s no right way to grieve. I remember someone telling me it’s like constantly having a stone in your pocket. It changes and evolves, but it is always there, and you can always feel it.

“You have to allow yourself to be like: ‘OK, I can’t get up today, and I’m going to stay in bed for two days.’ Or, if you want to go and get hammered one day, that’s fine.”

Missé is determined to live her life to the fullest in honour of Jake.

“I love working, and I am a single woman with responsibilities.

“There has been so much darkness for me that I’ve got to look on the bright side. I need to be positive. I want to find purpose.

“I don’t believe Jake would want me to sit at home.

“He’d say: ‘Get the f**k up!’ He always used to say that to me. He was a pusher. He never even let me have a nap. He always wanted more for me.”

Perhaps instead of berating her online, people should put themselves in her shoes and understand how hard it is to lose someone in such a shocking way.