HEATHER, who proudly brands herself a ‘misfit mum’, opened up about her unique parenting style – where she teaches her kids how to fight and lets them enjoy unlimited screentime.
The influencer, who has a whopping 221.8k on TikTok, says she also refuses to force her four-year-old to be potty trained.
Heather shares brutally honest videos about her parenting style for her kidsCredit: TikTok/@misfitmommyy
Heather, known as @misfitmommyy on the social media , shared a video where she deep-cleaned her fridge and organised her shopping into various .
As she made her kitchen sparkle, she explained to her followers that her parenting style “is called reality”, and was well aware that some wouldn’t agree with her methods.
And whilst many parents spend most of their day making sure to keep their little ones happy, Heather insists that it is not a priority.
She said: “I don’t believe in making my kids happy all the time.
“Sometimes they’re bored, sometimes they’re p*****, sometimes they don’t get what they want, and I let that happen because if a kid can’t handle being unhappy for five minutes, adulthood is going to wreck them,” she added.
Heather also says her four-year-old is still in nappies because she refuses to “bully” her into .
She said: “My four-year-old isn’t ready to potty train yet. I’ll encourage it, but I’m not going to bully her into it.
“Pressure doesn’t make kids smarter, it just makes them .”
The mum-of-three is also open about how she’s taught her children how to physically defend themselves.
“I teach my kids how to fight. That’s right, there ain’t one kid out there who’s going to bully my kids,” she explained.
‘REAL PARENTING’
And in her household, there is zero pressure on her little ones to achieve certain .
In fact, she admits that she “doesn’t care”.
She added: “If you can read, write, and do basic math – we’re good.
“You don’t need to be good at or physics if your brain works better in art, music or something you actually give a s*** about.
“Not everyone was built for achidemia, and that doesn’t make you stupid,” she argued.
She’s also not fussed about how much screentime her kids have – arguing that she needs quiet moments in the day so she can get on with her own life.
“Sometimes, my kids get unlimited because I have s*** to do. Sometimes they want to relax. Maybe they don’t want to pretend are their friends all day,” she pointed out.
“Sometimes I need some silence without someone touching me or asking for a snack.”
CONTROVERSIAL OPINIONS
She insists that she is raising her children to be able to cope with the real world and adulthood.
Heather has been accused by people online of “hating her kids”.
She calls them out, and says that she loves her children from the bottom of her heart- but is honest about how hard can be.
The controversial post racked up over 4,000 comments, and the opinions were divided.
“You lost me at the potty training,” one wrote.
“First impression? Instant follow. Thank you for this video,” said a second.
One argued: “People are going to hate me but y’all realize this is gentle parenting right?
“Like this is ACTUAL gentle (or responsive) parenting, not permissive parenting (which people think is gentle parenting).”
Another added: “As a preschool teacher, I need more of you. We need realistic parenting. Your kiddos are gonna thrive because you’re realistic. I love it.”
“This post is intense,” wrote another.
Shocked by her colourful language in the video, one wrote: “Try not to cuss for 5 seconds – level impossible.”
Another added: “Okay, I liked this until the potty training part.”
“I agreed with everything you said minus having a 4 year who is not . That is absolutely wild,” echoed one follower.
Some followers joked and asked her to adopt them, whilst some expressed how much they related to the honest post.
Heather says she doesn’t believe in pressuring her children or keeping them happy 24/7Credit: TikTok/@misfitmommyy How to know when your child is ready to be potty trained?
WE spoke to child expert Amanda Jenner about when to know if your child is ready to step out of nappies.
Amanda says the first thing you want to do is recognise the signs that your child is ready for potty training.
Your child will display signs of readiness when it’s time for them to start these include:
- Communicating and insisting on a nappy change once they’ve when they have done a poor or wee
- Stopping in their tracks and looking down when they have done a poo or wee
- Hiding whilst they are doing a poo or wee
- Showing an interest in others using a bathroom or toilet
- Longer periods with dry pull-up/ nappies
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