AN Irish traveller has shared the six life lessons they are taught as young girls, and one of the key rules revolves around food and drink.
Angela Ann Doherty, known as ‘angelaann.doherty’ on TikTok, posted a video offering a glimpse into the traditions and values instilled in her as part of the travelling community.
The young woman revealed “some things”; her mum taught her growing up.
The first lesson was about love.
She explained that her mother always advised her not to believe every boy who says, “I love you,”; because, as her mum put it, “most of them don’t even know what love is.”;
The second rule is rooted in hospitality and kindness.
Angela said she was , and to feed people if they are hungry.
She also explained that if you suspect they are hungry but they haven’t asked, still feed them.
And when , don’t ask them if they want tea or sandwiches – just make it.
Many people might decline out of “shame,”; so Angela was taught that it’s better to simply offer without asking.
The third piece of advice is about housekeeping.
Angela’s mum believed that “a tidy house is better than a clean house.”;
Angela shared that she agrees with this idea, noting that sometimes tidying up can make a house look better than focusing solely on deep cleaning.
The fourth rule is about honesty.
Her mum advised that if you’re going to tell a lie, you must have a good memory because one lie often leads to another, creating a web of lies that can eventually expose you.
The fifth lesson came not from her mother but from her grandfather, whom she fondly refers to as her “old daddy.”;
Self-respect
He taught her never to steal, but if you must, it should only be to feed yourself or someone else.
He stressed the importance of never stealing from small businesses, your own community, or people who are struggling.
Before resorting to theft, he said, make sure there is no other way to “feed yourself”; or your family and that stealing should only ever be a last resort.
Finally, is about self-respect in .
Angela’s mum advised her never to argue over a man, as it diminishes your worth.
Don’t argue
“Never give the man a big head about himself,”; her mum would say.
“You’re the prize, he isn’t.”;
Within 21 hours of the video being shared, Angela gained 78.7k views and 330 comments.
One wrote: “I used to live in and we would always make tea and sandwiches when anyone used to come.”;
And Angela replied: “I think a lot of traveller traditions were just old Irish ways.”;
A third added: “Your mother spoke with respect and manners.”;
