A WOMAN has been slammed after taking all of her 11-year-old’s belongings and throwing them out.
Elizabeth took to social media to show off the , which was now empty, bar the young girl’s bed and a few of her teddy bears.
Elizabeth shared that she threw her boyfriend’s sister’s stuff outCredit: tiktok/@elizziebeth09
While many claimed it was like abuse, she said she had a good reason for chucking her items outCredit: tiktok/@elizziebeth09
The over-bed wardrobe had been and her Kallax was also now empty.
She revealed that she was helping to look after her partner’s younger sister as her was struggling to look after the daughter.
Elizabeth said she was left with no choice but to clear the room out after the 11-year-old failed to clean her room leaving it filthy.
She wrote: “THIS IS A RESULT OF HER BEHAVIOUR!!! WE HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING BEFORE THIS POINT!!
“Sad, but it is what it is.”
The young woman went on to say that the house now had bugs and mice because the child refused to clean, which meant a lot of her items were contaminated and needed to be thrown away.
She added: “And before anyone goes off about how rude it is. We have had mice and bugs inside because of her room alone.
“She’s 11 and has major behavioural problems due to parenting. I’ve taken over her punishments and rewards because of this problem.
“I tried compromising, I tried taking stuff away, I tried offering rewards, previously, then tried yelling, which I refuse to do.
“We would’ve saved her stuff to earn back, or even donated it if it had been salvageable, but the extent of the damage was just heartbreaking.”
In another clip, Elizabeth explained that she had taught the 11-year-old how to clean and helped with her room in the past.
But this time, the young girl had gotten into trouble at school and was asked to clean her room, which she refused to do.
Elizabeth explained that she first started to bag stuff up to put away, but she realised the young girl hadn’t been cleaning in the past instead, hiding the mess away.
She explained: “Her stuffed animals stayed because that’s all she cared about. While going through everything, the condition of her things became clear to me.
“Spilled in multiple areas, mouldy boba in a cup on a bookshelf with waterlogged items on it.
“Her toys were destroyed from anger fits or improper care.
“There were mouse droppings and bugs everywhere.”
She said she wouldn’t let the young girl live in a dangerous environment and had no choice but to bin her stuff.
The clip went viral on her TikTok account @ elizziebeth09 with over 1.5 million views and 234k likes.
Many took to the comments claiming Elizabeth had done more harm than good, while others said she clearly had no other choice.
One person wrote: “Hey, so as someone who had this happen to them as a kid, I’m still not over it 15 years later.”
“Well, I hope you didn’t do the things she did to get to this point!” replied Elizabeth.
Another commented: “Unless you have legal guardianship over her, this is an extreme overstep on not only your part, but your boyfriend’s part as well.”
“She’s… a child??? throwing her things away isn’t gonna do anything, it’s going to make it worse,” penned a third.
Different parenting styles explained
There are four recognised styles of parenting explained below:
Authoritarian Parenting
What some might describe as “regimental” or “strict” parenting.
Parents with this style focus on strict rules, obedience, and discipline.
Authoritarian parents take over the decision-making power, rarely giving children any input in the matter.
When it comes to rules, you believe it’s “my way or the highway”.
Permissive Parenting
Often referred to as “soft parenting” or “yes mums/dads”.
Permissive parents are lenient, only stepping in when there’s a serious problem.
They’re quite forgiving and they adopt an attitude of “kids will be kids”.
Oftentimes they act more like friends than authoritative figures.
Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parents provide their children with rules and boundaries, but they also give them the freedom to make decisions.
With an authoritative parenting style, parents validate their children’s feelings while also making it clear that the adults are ultimately in charge.
They use positive reinforcement techniques, like praise and reward systems, as opposed to harsh punishments.
Neglectful or Uninvolved Parenting
Essentially, neglectful parents ignore their children, who receive little guidance, nurturing, and parental attention.
They don’t set rules or expectations, and they tend to have minimal knowledge about what their children are doing.
Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time or energy to meeting children’s basic needs.
Uninvolved parents may be neglectful but it’s not always intentional.
A parent with mental health issues or substance abuse problems, for example, may not be able to care for a child’s physical or emotional needs consistently.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “The moment there are bugs and critters involved you’re done. You did the right thing.”
“My mum did the same thing and I turned out fine so I don’t see the problem,” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “You can tell people don’t read captions, this was 100% understandable.”
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