A WIFE is sharing her secret ‘3-hour rule’ that keeps her marriage alive, and other married couples can’t get enough of it.
TikToker Rachel Higgins posted a video sharing the simple way she and her husband manage to reconnect after long days.
Higgins and her husband began following a three-hour night back in 2024, and the mother said it has been a “game changer” in their relationship.
What is the three-hour night? Higgins explains it as dividing up three hours into three different sections, which allows them to accomplish chores and connect.
Higgins and her husband would previously spend the entire night taking care of their young daughter, lounging on the couch while scrolling through their phones, and then going to bed.
However, after prioritizing their relationship, their nights take on a slightly different look.
“What we do is after my daughter goes to bed…we take an hour of productive time,” Higgins explained.
“Anything that’s productive for the household.”
During the productive hour, they do chores that they couldn’t accomplish throughout the day, such as cleaning the kitchen or laundry.
“The second hour we’re dedicating to our marriage.
“During this time, we put our phones away and we’re solely dedicated to each other and to our marriage.”
Higgins said that this hour can look a little different every night.
Some nights it may mean taking a shower together, while others it may just be as simple as playing a game together.
The purpose of this hour is to debrief, discuss, and connect.
“The last hour is about taking time to yourself,” she said.
In the final hour, both of them can do whatever they want without judgment.
Carson Daly's relationship rule
In 2024, Carson Daly revealed his secret relationship rule to People:
Daly told People that he and his wife, Siri Pinter, sleep in separate rules.
“It’s been good for us,” said the Today host before revealing that he and Siri “secretly love it.”
Daly isn’t the only celebrity to participate in the “sleep divorce” trend. Cameron Diaz said in 2023 that she and her husband Benji Madden also sleep in different rooms. “We should normalize separate bedrooms,” she said. “To me, I would literally, I have my house, you have yours.”
This may be lying on the couch, on your phone, or any other self-care activities you need to do.
“Main point is to inspire you to be intentional with your time if you feel stuck doing the same thing every night like we did,” Higgins wrote in the comments.
“No hard rules.”
Higgins said that they don’t necessarily accomplish their three-hour night goal every night, but they try to do it three to four times a week.
The mother said that even just succeeding one night a week can be enough.
Higgins’ three-hour night drew the attention of over 300,000 TikTok users, with many people rushing to the comments to support the idea or question how she manages to make it work.
“Such a good idea,” one woman commented.
“Good for us empty nesters too! The phone scrolling is outta control!”
